5 Ways To Simplify, Understand & Improve Your Sex Life

I think it’s time we spill the beans, expose our perversions, and talk about the ‘F’ word. One of the most commonly used words, second only to love, the realities of this natural human behaviour are usually swept under the carpet (or blanket in our case). Whatever happens behind closed doors is deemed private and hushed. It becomes ‘the unspoken word.’ We are confused about it and full of questions – are we having too much, too little, too insipid, too wild, too rough, too boring, too kinky? Are we doing it the right way, the wrong way, the ‘Godly’ way? And so on and so forth, it goes on. It’s something we do all the time, yet so rarely talk about – of course we want to know more about it.

But how did we make it so complex? Where did we go so wrong with something so basic, so primal, so essential?

In my country there is a certain stigma attached to enjoying sex, especially for the unmarried, with guilt and shame laying at the heart of it. It is the land of Kamasutra and erotica, of beautiful sexual expression, how did we go so wrong over the years?

Surprising Stats

Today I was reading an article in the New York Times by Seth Stephens-Davidowitz, a contributing member and economist. He revealed some shocking data from Google on sex, documented over the past few years from search queries, that offer fresh insights on socially sensitive issues. The results were revelatory. ‘On Google the top complaint about a marriage is not having sex. Searches for ‘sexless marriage’ are three and a half times more common than ‘unhappy marriage’ and eight times more common than ‘loveless marriage.’ There are 16 times more complaints about a spouse not wanting sex than about a married partner not being willing to talk. Even couples not yet married complain somewhat frequently about lack of sex. Google searches for ‘sexless relationship’ are only second to searches for ‘abusive relationship.’

Having a dysfunctional sex life is more common than we may have thought. And it’s time to talk about it.

The ancients in India believed that sex energy was nothing but a form of creative energy. You could use this energy to procreate, write, paint, make music, or do anything else that was creative. Sex was never seen as a phenomena isolated from other activities. When this energy is in balance, one feels inspired and alive, and one is full of vigour for life. Over the years this energy has been suppressed, and people have been conditioned to adopt new and faulty beliefs. Sex was transformed from an act of love to something darker, something for which one should feel shame. But this dichotomy is unhealthy. Until this stifling veil falls away, we will not be able to live life in all its splendour. Nature is the most beautiful example of abundant creative energy. Today, I invite all of you to disassociate from all the false notions of sex our society perpetuates and which may be causing you stress in the bedroom, and instead to celebrate your sexuality and this magnificent energy. A few tips in kickstarting this journey:

Bring Awareness To The Act

Civilisations throughout history have believed in the power of sex and considered it sacred. There are many temples in South East Asia that worship genitalia as a source of powerful creative energy. Bring awareness to this sacred act whenever you practice it. Be aware of all the sensations in your body. How do you feel when your partner feels you in different places? Dwell in every sensation. Feel it with the same intensity as you feel the sun on a hot day, the sand on the beach, the balmy mountain breeze, wet mud on a rainy day. Be the ‘observer.’ Feel the pain, the pleasure, the tensed muscles, the heavy breathing; experience the sounds and the silences. Dwell in the moment of orgasm. Creation was made in this one moment. Don’t let sex be an insipid, habitual, random, or wasted act that one needs to simply get through. Harness your own potential and be amazed at what you find.

Create A Space For Love

Much like your library, kitchen, or TV room are spaces dedicated to specific activities, a special corner of your home should be assigned for engaging in the act of love. You could fill this room with incense, candles, oils, cozy blankets, soft cushions or whatever else you associate with this lovemaking. You want this to be a space where you feel relaxed, not tense. Whenever you enter the room, switch off your phone, set aside your worries from the day, and fill your mind with amorous thoughts only. Think of love making as a fulfilling activity. It has great recreational quality, can revitalize you, and can charge every cell in your body, making you feel a lot younger. Recent studies show that people who make love more often look much younger and less jaded than their more abstinent counterparts.

Don’t Worry About Performance

Do not overthink sex. This is a very simple act. Rather than learning from pulp magazines, bring more intuitiveness into your love life. You have been fed a lot of nonsense, and its about time to throw that garbage out of your system and depollute your mind. Trust yourself to know how to bring pleasure to yourself and your partner. Observe and learn from what excites your partner. The more awareness you bring into this act, the more you will start enjoying it naturally. Your partner will get more aroused with this awareness and you will be able to climax better. Remove notions of how long it’s supposed to last, what it should be like and what you need to do. Start with the wonder of a child and explore the uncharted territories. Find small delights and pleasures, and let this be your journey.

Eliminate Guilt & Shame

Drop the baggage associated with sex -if you still can’t dissociate sex with guilt or overindulgence, start meditating on sex. Believe that pleasure and pain are two faces of the same coin. Nature shows abundance in every way, so let your life be full of abundance too – whether its money, happiness, a career or beautiful long-lasting relationships. Start with love making. Practice it with unbridled passion. This is the only act where you are giving and receiving in the same breath. Practice it with awareness and belief and witness how it transforms other facets of your life.

Communicate With Your Partner

The problem is that men often dissociate feelings with sex and women often cannot have sex until they feel emotionally connected to their partners. The trouble: partners do not communicate. They need to get into each other’s shoes more often. Share your desires with your partner, what arouses you, what takes you higher, what ignites your fantasy. Make this union special every time. If you have never tried, try writing your sex fantasies and sharing them with your partner. Don’t shy away from pleasure; there is nothing dirty about it. Bring more love and compassion to your love making. While you respect your partner’s sacred space and vulnerabilities, you can also introduce naughty surprises -create this chemistry with your partner.  Forge a special bond with your spouse or lover.

Sex is the celebration of oneness. Every molecule in your body dances with delight in this sacred union. Heightened sexual pleasure will reflect in all of life’s experiences. This is the secret of a fulfilling life, a beautiful relationship. Conscious love making is soul stirring. Practice it with love and awareness. Bring this ecstatic bliss and love into your life. Deepen your sexual understanding through your own experience. Let this be yours and special in every way.

This Is What Your Acne Reveals About Your Health

According to Chinese medicine, the acne that shows up on the face could actually be directly linked to the health of your internal organs. It can be beneficial for your health to note where your acne is showing up on your face, and pay special attention to the organs that correlate. This also relates to the types of foods that you are eating, and foods that you should be limiting. See map below

The Upper Forehead

Correlates to the digestive system and bladder. It is important to drink plenty of water and drastically limit greasy food and processed sugars. Consume large amounts of fresh, organic fruits and vegetables. Eat foods that are rich in anti-oxidants and consider drinking warm lemon water and green tea regularly. Be sure that you are getting a good source of probiotics, which you can get from fermented foods such as: sauerkraut, kimchi, kombucha, or kefir. If you do not consume these foods you may want to consider taking a probiotic supplement.

The Lower Forehead

Is said to relate to the heart. Your heart is a massive organ that pumps the blood through your entire body. It is so important to keep your heart healthy; you can do so by participating in regular cardiovascular activity. You can also help clear up this type of acne by eating coconut oil and pomegranate.

Eyebrow/Eye Area

This area relates to the liver. If you tend to get acne in this area often, it may indicate that your liver has been overworked and is in need of a cleanse. Try to eliminate or drastically cut back on fried, greasy foods, alcohol, and dairy. Some foods that can assist with cleansing the liver include: green tea, carrots, beets, lemons, limes, garlic leafy greens, and grapefruit. Try to purchase organic whenever possible.

Ears

If you tend to get large painful pimples on your ears it may be a sign that your kidneys are not being taken care of. This could be as simple as not getting enough water and/or eating too much sodium, specifically that found in processed foods. Other factors that lead to unhealthy kidneys include: eating too much animal protein, being deficient in magnesium and other minerals, not getting enough sleep, and excess sugar consumption. Consider cutting these back.

Upper Cheeks

Flare ups on the upper cheeks are related to the lungs and respiratory system. This may happen often if you’re a smoker, but also if you have a respiratory illness such as asthma. Living in a polluted area can also cause this and even lung infections.

Lower Cheeks

Acne flare-ups on your lower cheeks may be related to gum or teeth problems. You may want to limit refined sugars and completely eliminate soft drinks. Consider implementing a practice known as Oil Pulling into your daily routine.

Side Of Chin

This is especially for women, as flare-ups on the sides of the chin are a good indication of a hormonal imbalance. Factors that can cause this include: menstruation, birth control, and a diet high in soy products. Emotional and physical stress can also cause hormone imbalances. Foods that can help to balance the hormones include: holy basil, liquorice, burdock, red raspberry leaves, milk thistle and green tea.

Center Of The Chin

Acne on the center of the chin can be related to digestion and to problems with the the stomach and small intestine. This can be directly caused by a poor diet and/or food allergies such as one to gluten. You may want to consider a whole foods cleanse for a week to assist with movement in the intestines. If your gut is lacking probiotics it won’t matter how much good, clean healthy food you are eating, the nutrients will simply pass right through you.

As always, getting adequate sleep, drinking enough water, and meditating regularly are key for maintaining good mental and physical health – don’t forget!

The Mother Of All Antioxidants

We have all heard of antioxidants, but have we heard of the mother of all antioxidants? One that is the secret to prevent cancer, heart disease, aging, neurological issues and more? This single antioxidant has been studied in great depth yet most of us know nothing about it and  many doctors have no idea how to address the epidemic of its deficiency in humans.

We are of course talking about Glutathione (pronounced “gloota-thigh-own.”) This is a powerful detoxifier and immune booster and is crucial to a healthy life. Although the body does make some of its own Glutathione, poor food quality, pollution, toxic environments, stress, infections and radiation are all depleting out bodies glutathione.

What is Glutathione?

Glutathione is a simple molecule produced naturally in the body at all times. It’s a combination of three building blocks of protein or amino acids — cysteine, glycine and glutamine.

The best part of glutathione is that is contains sulfur chemical groups that work to trap all the bad things like free radicals and toxins such as mercury and heavy metals in our body then flush them out. This is especially important in our current world of heavy metal bombardment.

Where Can You Get Glutathione?

The body makes it, but it’s often not enough in our strenuous environment. Here are some food sources that either contain glutathione or its precursors to help the body produce more.

• Broccoli
• Brussels sprouts
• Cabbage
• Cauliflower
• Avocados
• Peaches
• Watermelon
• Cinnamon
• Cardamom
• Turmeric (Curcumin)
• Tomatoes
• Peas
• Garlic
• Onions
• Red peppers

Notice they are all healthy foods we often don’t get enough of? This is another big issue with our diets. We consume a lot of junk, meat, dairy and processed foods, items that clinically have been proven to be the number one causes of heart disease and illness yet we consume  them in huge quantities. The key is to limit these and eat a lot of fresh, lively foods that provide nutrients and don’t ask the body to perform a mega job to digest.

You can also increase your exercise as glutathione production increases when you exercise. Breathing and sweating are also great ways to get rid of toxins in the body.

Glutathione Protects Against Chronic Illness

What makes glutathione so important and powerful is that it recycles antioxidants. When your body is dealing with free radicals, it is essentially passing them from one molecule to another. They might go from vitamin C to vitamin E to lipoic acid and then to glutathione where they are cooled off. Antioxidants are recycled at this point and the body can now regenerate another glutathione molecule to go back at it again.

Glutathione is crucial for helping your immune system fight chronic illness as it acts as the carrier of toxins out of your body. Like a fly trap, toxins stick to glutathione and they are carried to the bile into the stools and out of the body. Glutathione is also powerful enough that it has been shown to help in the treatment of AIDS greatly. The body is going to get in touch with oxidants and toxins, the more we can deal with those the better our body will be at staying strong, this is why glutathione is so important.

9 Final Tips

Dr. Mark Hyman has given 9 tips to increase your Glutathione levels. Check them out!

1. Consume sulfur-rich foods. The main ones in the diet are garlic, onions and the cruciferous vegetables (broccoli, kale, collards, cabbage, cauliflower, watercress, etc.).

2. Try bioactive whey protein. This is great source of cysteine and the amino acid building blocks for glutathione synthesis. As you know, I am not a big fan of dairy, but this is an exception — with a few warnings. The whey protein MUST be bioactive and made from non-denatured proteins (“denaturing” refers to the breakdown of the normal protein structure). Choose non-pasteurized and non-industrially produced milk that contains no pesticides, hormones, or antibiotics. Immunocal is a prescription bioactive non-denatured whey protein that is even listed in the Physician’s Desk Reference.

3. Exercise boosts your glutathione levels and thereby helps boost your immune system, improve detoxification and enhance your body’s own antioxidant defenses. Start slow and build up to 30 minutes a day of vigorous aerobic exercise like walking or jogging, or play various sports. Strength training for 20 minutes 3 times a week is also helpful.

One would think it would be easy just to take glutathione as a pill, but the body digests protein — so you wouldn’t get the benefits if you did it this way. However, the production and recycling of glutathione in the body requires many different nutrients and you CAN take these. Here are the main supplements that need to be taken consistently to boost glutathione. Besides taking a multivitamin and fish oil, supporting my glutathione levels with these supplements is the most important thing I do every day for my personal health.

4. N-acetyl-cysteine. This has been used for years to help treat asthma and lung disease and to treat people with life-threatening liver failure from Tylenol overdose. In fact, I first learned about it in medical school while working in the emergency room. It is even given to prevent kidney damage from dyes used during x-ray studies.

5. Alpha lipoic acid. This is a close second to glutathione in importance in our cells and is involved in energy production, blood sugar control, brain health and detoxification. The body usually makes it, but given all the stresses we are under, we often become depleted.

6. Methylation nutrients (folate and vitamins B6 and B12). These are perhaps the most critical to keep the body producing glutathione. Methylation and the production and recycling of glutathione are the two most important biochemical functions in your body. Take folate (especially in the active form of 5 methyltetrahydrofolate), B6 (in active form of P5P) and B12 (in the active form of methylcobalamin).

7. Selenium. This important mineral helps the body recycle and produce more glutathione.

8. A family of antioxidants including vitamins C and E (in the form of mixed tocopherols), work together to recycle glutathione.

9. Milk thistle (silymarin) has long been used in liver disease and helps boost glutathione levels.

Sources:

http://drhyman.com/blog/2010/05/12/what-is-glutathione-and-how-do-i-get-more-of-it/

http://articles.mercola.com/sites/articles/archive/2010/04/10/can-you-use-food-to-increase-glutathione-instead-of-supplements.aspx

http://glutathionepro.com/what-is-l-glutathione/

http://www.webmd.com/vitamins-supplements/ingredientmono-717-GLUTATHIONE.aspx?activeIngredientId=717&activeIngredientName=GLUTATHIONE

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0hufj2AIPxQ